The Milk is Still Bad And Other Cautionary Tales From A Divorce Lawyer

DOMESTIC PARTNER REGISTRY FOR TAMPA, AND COMING SOON ST. PETERSBURG

 

The same objectives for domestic partners can be accomplished by some simple legal documents including a "health care power of attorney", a "durable power of attorney", and a "living will". These documents allow the designated domestic partner to make health care decisions, be present in a hospital, and make financial decisions for their partner at a time when their partner is unable to do so.  These registrys attempt to accomplish the same objectives, but fall short of the benefits available to partners with a couple simple legal documents.

Read more in this article from the St. Pete Times today;

Tampa creates the first domestic partnership registry in the Tampa Bay area

By Richard Danielson, Times Staff Writer

Tampa Bay Times: Friday, April 6, 2012

TAMPA — In a historic decision, this city Thursday became the first in the Tampa Bay area to create a registry where unmarried couples can register as domestic partners.

"You're making a statement that Tampa is a welcoming city," R. Zeke Fread, 60, of Palma Ceia said moments before the City Council's unanimous vote. "I've never been so proud to live in Tampa."

Tampa now joins Orlando, Gainesville, West Palm Beach and Key West, as well as the counties of Miami-Dade, Broward and Palm Beach, with such laws.

Its movement toward the registry has inspired officials in St. Petersburg and Gulfport to consider creating registries of their own.

"I am so very pleased to bring forth this ordinance that represents a small step in bringing dignity and equality to all," said Yvonne Yolie Capin, the council member who proposed Tampa's registry.

But don't rush to City Hall just yet. The city clerk has 90 days to set up the registry.

When it is ready, both same-sex and straight couples from Tampa will be able to sign up.

Still, the ordinance establishing the registry says nothing about it "shall be construed as recognizing or treating a domestic partnership as a marriage."

Tampa's registry will be open to couples of two people who are 18 or older, are not married and not related by blood, who live together and consider each other as immediate family. It will recognize their ability to:

• Visit each other in health care facilities in the city.

• Make medical decisions for a partner who is incapacitated.

• Make funeral arrangements for each other.

• Be notified as a family member in an emergency involving a partner.

• Participate in the education of the child of a domestic partner.

While this is the Tampa Bay area's first domestic partnership registry, it follows the similar actions by several local governments.

The city of Tampa, the Pinellas County Sheriff's Office and the St. Petersburg Police Department already offer health benefits to same-sex domestic partners of their employees.

8 Mistakes Married Women Make

This article is written strictly from a mans point of view, so for those women reading it, dont take offense.  Read this for what it is, and if you see yourself in this you can decide if any of what is said here has value or is just plain crap, you decide. For some, it may just save your marriage. For more read "The Milk is Still Bad and Other Cautionary Tales" on Amazon.com for kindle books.

1. Nagging - one of the most common things that men report during consultations for divorce is that their wife constantly nags them about everything.  This includes complaining about things that they did or didn't do, or failed to do correctly.  Men quietly tolerate nagging but deep down it creates a huge level of resentment and over time will cause men to run away.  This occurs more in marriages than in dating because for some crazy reason some women think that once they have a man wearing a ring on his finger that they can abuse him all they want.  Women may not realize that nagging is abuse, but to most men it is a form of abuse that they silently endure until they have had enough.

2. No Sex - the second most common mistake women make is withholding sex.  Normally during dating couples have sex every time they see each other, often twice a day.  After marriage, many women seem to loose interest in sex, possibly as a result of having children, the stress of daily life, work, bills, and household chores. What most women do not realize is that sex is a compulsion in men, a need that has to be satisfied on a regular basis.  Apparently women don't have the same physical need for sex every day that men have. Men think about sex about a hundred times a day. One sure way to keep men interested is to offer sex every day, whether the man wants it or not, and whether you feel like it or not.

3. Emasculation - the third common mistake women make is to emasculate their man.  This includes telling him that he is wrong in front of friends, family or the children, as well as taking control of things that are normally a man's domain such as control of the tv remote, changing the radio, picking the movie, deciding on where to go on vacation, insisting on driving, and making decisions regarding the children without taking their husbands opinion into consideration. Women that dominate in this manner totally emasculate their husband to the point that many husbands will eventually have had enough and leave.

4. Ignoring - the fourth common mistake women make is to ignore their man by placing more importance on everything else. This can include becoming preoccupied with hobbies, the internet, facebook, working out, and talking to friends on the phone and surfing the net.  As a result of the wife showing absolutely no interest in anything the husband does or says, he will find others that are interested in what he has to say or likes to do.

5. Criticizing - this mistake is a subset of nagging. Often no matter what words come out of the husbands mouth they are met with criticism, anger, or disagreemenet from the wife. As a result at some point men just stop talking.  Many times you see this scenario where an old couple managed to stay together for many years, but the man just does not talk in the presence of his wife. 

6. Stubborn - being stubborn to the point of inflexibility is the sixth mistake women make. No matter what the subject, topic, or idea the woman will not give in, or offer any negotiation. It is her way of the highway, and often the man chooses the highway.

7. Always right - this mistake is one where the woman believes she is right and will not ever admit that she is wrong, and has to win every argument and every discussion. This is a subset of emasculation.

8. Never Says Sorry - this final mistake is a subset of stubborn and always right, and speaks for itself. The woman never is willing to say she is sorry, or worse yet insists that the man say he is sorry to her almost daily whether he has done anything wrong or not. Some women joke about this, and say that they require their man to apologize every day even if he has done nothing wrong.  This too builds up resentment and eventually most men tire of having to go through this exercise.

So there you have it, 8 mistakes that women make. Believe it or dont, but if you see yourself or someone you are in a relationship with, why not start a discussion. If you disagree with these 8 mistakes, you are enetitled to your opinion, perhaps I was not right, and also I'm sorry. Also I promise not to nag you or criticize you again.  There did that make you feel better?